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Narcissistic Personality Symptoms

  1. grandiosity / exaggeration
  2. fantastic thinking / romantic
  3. believes special / unique
  4. requires admiration
  5. entitled / demanding
  6. exploitive / manipulative
  7. lacks empathy
  8. envious / jealous
  9. arrogant / haughty

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Books to read, some helpful, some not...

Click here for another list of books, annotated by Joanna Ashmun

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Clinical and Self help books I have read or people have recommended:

The abandoned child within. by Kathrin Asper

In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K., Jr. Simon

Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying by Cheryl Dellasega, Charisse Nixon

Secrets You Keep from Yourself: How to Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness by Dan Neuharth

Secrets of the Soul; A Social and Cultural History of Psychoanalysis (Hardcover) by Eli Zaretsky

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders - Fourth Edition (DSM-IV), published by the American Psychiatric Association, Washington D.C., 1994, the main diagnostic reference of Mental Health professionals in the United States of America. at Amazon

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor Payson

Books by Nina W. Brown
Loving the Self-Absorbed: How to Create a More Satisfying Relationship with a Narcissistic Partner
The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern and Children of the Self-Absorbed : A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents Psychologist, Nina Brown describes the effects of having narcissistic parents, and offers suggestions on how to overcome the results of such an upbringing and regain a healthy sense of self.
oping with Infuriating, Mean, Critical People: The Destructive Narcissistic PatternAmazon

The Drama of the Gifted Child, The Search for the True Self by Alice Miller. It has been revised and republished by Basic Books, in 1997 ISBN no. 0-465-01960-1

Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin, author and Lidija Rangelovska (Editor)
it can be purchased at Barnes and Noble

The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment  by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert M. Pressman.  While billed as a book for therapists, The Narcissistic Family:  Diagnosis and Treatment is clearly written and accessible to non-professionals.  There are many case examples and little jargon.  An excellent choice for those wanting to learn more about the consequences of narcissism.  

Dinosaur Brains; Dealing with All those impossible People at Work Dr. Albert J. Bernstein and Sydney Craft Rozen Ballentine Books 1989

Emotional Vampires, Dealing with people who drain you dry by Dr. Albert J. Bernstein

Queen Bees & Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman

Woman's Inhumanity to Woman  by Phyllis Chesler, Thunder Mouth Press/Nation Books. A modern "Second Sex" that reveals much about how women interact amongst themselves, by a leading feminist. She talks of the Demetrian mother who resembles the narcissistic mother in many ways.

Narcissism: Denial of the true self. Alexander Lowen 1984 describes a gamut of narcissism, that goes from the mildest Phallic Narcissistic Character, to Narcissistic Character, to Borderline Personality, to Psychopathic Personality, to the worst, Paranoid Personality. The author admits he is a Phallic Narcissist.

Trapped in the Mirror : Adult Children of Narcissists in Their Struggle for Self
Psychologist, Elan Golomb, interviews adult children of narcissistic parents and describes her own attempts to undo the damage from her childhood.

Where Egos Dare, the untold truth about narcissistic leaders - and how to survive them Dean B McFalin & Paul D Sweeney, Kogan Page , 2000.
This is a brilliant book about the much needed know how of handling people at work who have NPD. A must for anyone who wants to take back their life and get ahead of NPD's.

McKay, Matthew, Ph.D. and Fanning, Patrick
l987ISBN 0-312-90443-6

Feeling Good, The New Mood Therapy
Burns, David D. M.D.
1980 ISBN 0-380-71803-0

Toxic Parents, Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy And Reclaiming Your Life
Forward, Susan Dr.
1989 ISBN 0-553-28434-7

Touched With Fire, Manic-Depressive Illness And The Artistic Treatment
Jamieson, Kay Redfield
l993 ISBN 0-684-83183-x

Where Egos Dare, The Untold Truth about Narcissistic Leaders- and How to Survive Them
McFarlin,Dean B and Sweeney, Paul D.
2000 ISBN 0-7494-2724 8

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
Branden, Nathaniel
1994 ISBN 0-553-37439-7

Toxic Friends True Friends, How Your Friends Can Make or Break Your Health, Happiness, Family and Career
Isaacs, Florence
1999 ISBN 0-688-15442-5

Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice
Catlett, Joyce M.D.,Firestone, Lisa M.D., Firestone, Robert W. M.D.
2002 ISBN 1-57224-287-6

Emotional Blackmail, When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You
Susan Forward and Donna Frazier
1997 ISBN 0-06-018757-3

Fictional or Non Fiction Novels with Narcissists

The Devil in the White City,
Erick Larson Vintage Books, published 2003

The Autograph Man
Smith, Zadie
2002 ISBN 0-241-14173-7

The Words To Say It by Marie Cardinal an autobiography, link

The Group by Mary McCartny, Norine is a pivotal character who shows signs of narcissism.

Running with Scissors: A Memoir by Augusten Burroughs

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